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  • Overwhelmed Isn’t a Personality Trait — It’s a Nervous System State

    Overwhelmed Isn’t a Personality Trait — It’s a Nervous System State

    Overwhelm is often a nervous system state, not a character flaw. This article aims to assist readers in calming the overwhelm with actionable results we all can take to see progress.

    Overwhelmed? How does the Nervous System Play a Part?

    Overwhelmed often shows up as the nervous system is in Flight or Fight. When our nervous system is calm: it is in Rest and Regulated.

    The nervous system includes: energy levels, mood, hormones, focus and decision making. Physically, the anatomy includes the brain and spinal cord. Then it includes nerves and ganglia (think cables connecting it all).

    Next, there is the Somatic Nervous System (Voluntary)

    This system is under your conscious control. It allows you to move your skeletal muscles—like when you decide to wave your hand or walk to the store.+1

    Autonomic Nervous System (Involuntary)

    This system runs on “autopilot.” It handles things you don’t think about, like digestion and your heartbeat. It is further divided into two famous responses:

    Parasympathetic: The “Rest and Regulated” response. It calms you down and helps your body recover.

    Sympathetic: The “Fight or Flight” response. It revs you up during stress (faster heart rate, dilated pupils).

    The entire system is built from two types of specialized cells:

    • Neurons (Nerve Cells): The stars of the show. They transmit the electrical signals. Each has a cell body, dendrites(to receive signals), and an axon (to send signals).+2
    • Glia (Glial Cells): The “support crew.” They protect, nourish, and insulate the neurons so they can work efficiently

    Signs Our Nervous System is Dysregulated

    I’ve been in relationships that have been so hard on my nervous system. Symptoms include:

    • Feeling overwhelmed easily
    • Constant fatigue
    • Irritability
    • Anxiety
    • Brain fog
    • Trouble sleeping
    • Feeling emotionally reactive
    • Difficulty focusing or completing tasks

    These are way too common in my life. (These also sound like perimenopause – yikes).

    Why Mom’s Are Especially Vulnerable

    Mom’s experience this more for many reasons. Think:

    • Constant responsibility
    • Lack of rest
    • Mental load
    • Hormonal shifts
    • Lack of support
    • Chronic multitasking
    • Solving So Many Mysteries

    For many of us, we have experienced the inability to accomplish much at all and there are reasons for this:

    You cannot build clarity, income, or stability from a disregulated state  Calm nervous systems make better decisions

    Regulation increases capacity, focus, and resilience. So now, let’s explore ways to get regulated and diminish the overwhelm.

    Simple Daily Practices That Support Nervous System Regulation

    Morning:

    • Avoid phone immediately
    • Get sunlight
    • Hydrate

    Throughout the day:

    • Slow breathing
    • Gentle movement
    • Taking breaks

    Evening:

    • Reduce stimulation
    • Calm environment
    • Consistent sleep schedule

    Focus on consistency, not perfection.

    Personal Story:

    After my husband left me in a very overwhelming, chaotic marriage. I found my days braced for impact. My nervous system was on high alert constantly.

    Reading the Bible was such a life line. Tapping helped. I practiced grounding at least daily. But what helped the very most is my small tweak that I added to my morning routine.

    Every morning, I start by applying Frankincense Essential oil to the bottoms of my feet, along with Ground oil blend. This assisted me in relaxing.

    What made an even bigger impact, is putting relaxing oils in the diffuser at night. Waking up feeling more rested is wonderful.

    My nervous system is improved as I speak positive affirmations forth daily. The mantra of my life is that my best days are ahead.

    Practicing nervous system regulating has such great benefits. It is very worth all of the hard work (Five years of trauma therapy weekly).

    Benefits of Regulating the Nervous System

    For one, I feel more relaxed. My shoulders aren’t up by my ears anymore. Being able to smile and enjoy is such a blessing.

    Clarity is a huge deal to me. Used to, my past, trauma, and shame kept me under a heavy weight. The constant chaos with overwhelm is gone. Thank God!

    My emotions are much more stable. It feels not fixating on every challenge. Not lashing out at others in adverse circumstances feel very positive (for those around me to). Stable emotions have helped me trust myself again as well.  I’m human, I still mess up at times; stability is normal for me now.

    Energy is better. I believe because I am not focused on all the things out of my control anymore. Overwhelm sometimes consists of things we can’t control, doesn’t it?

    Without the cloud of a disregulated nervous system, I can make decisions much easier. Leadership is something I’m more prepared for.

    Recap:

    Yes, getting out from under Nervous Dysregulation takes so much effort, the breakthrough is worth it! Consistency over perfection. Lately, when I am dysregulated, I’ve been grabbing lavender oil and smelling it in the cups of my hands. It helps me within seconds.

    Remember, we are not broken. Nervous system disregulation occurs for many reasons. Regulating is a learned skill. Small steps create real change. Make sure to give ourselves grace. We are human. Perfection is too high of a goal.

    What is your “go to,” when you are off? I’d love to hear in the comments below. What do you have to say about this subject? Let’s learn together. We are stronger together, better together.

    Conclusion:

    When the nervous system is more regulated, everything becomes easier. Decision making is more automated. Clarity increases. Confidence grows. This is where real change begins.

    For more on this topic, check out: This Post. Once you are more regulated, you can start building multiple streams of income. If you are interested, download my Discover Your $1,000.00 a Month Income Ideas.

     

  • From Burnout to Balance: Systems Over Stress

    From Burnout to Balance: Systems Over Stress

    Burnout to Balance: this should help you get your breath. Systems over stress are about strategies that bring order above chaos.  This is my story.

    How It Started: Burnout

    I was in burnout, trying to build Women Encouragement while working 40 plus hours a week. Burning the candle at both ends can last on adrenaline and grit for a time, but over months and years; burnout is inevitable.

    I kept the sprint for about fifteen months, but then hit a wall… hard. Health problems started to plague my body. Being prompt was blowing out the window. Delay seemed to be the heavy cloud over my head.

    Multi tasking until the wee hours of the morning to only do it again the next day, ushered in depression. We can’t give, what we don’t have. Running on empty steals. It causes clenched jaws, shoulders at the ears, and numbness.

    Burnout to Balance

    The Good Lord brought me systems over stress. I wanted to keep the ever running energizer bunny mode on. God thought otherwise.

    I quit a very chaotic environmental job. I had another position lined up, but they (four days before my start date) rescinded my acceptance letter. For four glorious months, I have been able to concentrate on systems over stress. I can not exaggerate how much I needed the past 160 days of down time.

    Burnout to Balance

    At first the hamster wheel was my comfort. I didn’t have a clue as to life off of it. If I wasn’t selling, creating, doing something – what was there to do?

     

    Slowly the onion peeled. Our culture tells us to grind harder. We are exhausted and ashamed of it, so we try so hard to appear rested. The burnout is real.

    After about two weeks I finally noticed me quietly picking up books again, baking, and watching shows just for fun. I was suddenly allowed to be me!

    Burnout to Balance

    Not everyone gets a job lapse. So, let me share some strategies that evade the burnout, bringing balance.

    Balanced Mornings

    First, the morning routine truly is the Secret Sauce from going from Burn out to Balance. I just finished the 5 AM Club, which was a strange little read. However, the morning schedule shared in the book is sunshine.

    Taking the morning to center, calm, meditate, exercise, and read is a huge game changer. Don’t knock it until you try it. This one small system was the quickest savior from the Hamster Wheel.

    Balanced Email Systems

    Secondly,

    Burnout to Balance is helpful in having an email strategy that rescues us from overwhelm (who doesn’t have a full inbox?). It can save hours of searching, struggling, trying to make it make sense. You can find more about this strategy: HERE

    Balanced by Time Blocking

     

    Thirdly,

    Burnout to Balance happened when I started time blocking. Good bye multitasking. Hello focused attention on one thing. This allows me to stay in the zone without feeling spread thin (where much of burnout comes from).

    Time blockers help me with an uptick of production as well. When I was cramming it all in while working 40 plus hours a week, I felt so scattered, it was tough to find results anywhere.

    Balanced Planning

    Fourth,

    From Burnout to Balance, I strongly suggest making a plan. By making a plan before the next day, I wake up with intention. There is no half a$$ing a day. I know what needs to be accomplished for things to move forward.

    This keeps me from coasting. Having a few things written down or typed in my phone, keeps me from channel surfing or doom scrolling.

    This resource might help you as well.  I wrote it, and it contains two systems for content creation.  Check it out HERE.

    Balanced with Social Media Strategy

    Lastly,

    Burnout to Balance: social media edition… have a plan in place. I now keep a huge monthly calendar of content creation on my bedroom wall. This keeps me from throwing social media content out there and praying it works (giving me a concrete plan). Utilizing this system combats burnout because I have a reference point to implement instead of constant fretting over what might work, what should I post today, etc.

    I sit down with the AI masters (Gemini, Chat gpt) and figure it out with them. These sit down sessions are almost always under an hour. This alone gives me such great guardrails for what I’m doing on the webbernets. I strongly suggest this yourself.

    How do you know if you are burned out? Great question. I made a list of the symptoms of burnout. You can download it: (complete the form at the bottom of this post).

    Balance:

    To recover from Burnout, I found I needed more sleep. I’m talking about hibernation level rest. My body craved it hard. Give yourself permission to rest to recover from burnout.

    Slowly add some systems to your day. This keeps chaos at bay. I find hustle culture breeds chaos like rabbits breed bunnies (it happens quickly). When we have systems in order, they act as the net below the acrobats at the circus to keep us safe.

    Sometimes, people pull on me to break out of systems. I respond, “Sorry, I’m booked at that time.” Systems are much like boundaries: they keep the good in and the evil at bay.

    My Burnout/Balance Story

    It took me about a full thirty days to feel truly me again. If you don’t have thirty days: I encourage you to take breaks. Give yourself micro vacations to walk outside. Drink your favorite beverage. Eat some favorites. Savor the good in life. Self care as much as possible. In time we will be off the hamster wheel. It is just a matter of time.

    If you’d like more along these lines, meet me for my Zoom, Mondays at 7:00pm called the Mom Reset. It’s quick, under 45 minutes and will bring a breath of fresh air to us all. Comment below for the link.

    What have done to get out of burnout?  I’d love to hear what worked for you.  Let’s cheer each other on, celebrating each other!  Be blessed

  • Title: Stress Busting 101: 4 Kickace Coping Strategies Every Woman Needs to Know

    Title: Stress Busting 101: 4 Kickace Coping Strategies Every Woman Needs to Know

    Title: Stress Busting 101: 4 Kick-ace Coping Strategies Every Woman Needs to Know

    Hey there, ladies! Are you tired of stress knocking on your door like an uninvited guest at a party you didn’t even want to throw? Well, grab your favorite mug of whatever keeps you sane (coffee, tea, or maybe even a cheeky glass of whatever—we don’t judge!) because today, we’re diving into the wild world of stress management. Buckle up those seatbelts, because we’ve got four seriously awesome coping strategies that will have you saying, “Stress? Never heard of her!”

     

    1. Centered and present:

    Let’s kick things off with a bit of centered, shall we? Present isn’t just for barefoot yogis chanting in the Himalayas—it’s for every boss lady hustling her way through the chaos of modern life. Picture this: you’re stuck in traffic, late for a meeting, and your inbox is exploding like a confetti cannon. Instead of letting that stress monster take the wheel, take a deep breath (or five), and bring your mind back to the present moment.

    Mindfulness is all about being aware of your thoughts and feelings without judgment. So, when your inner voice starts screaming, “We’re all gonna die!” gently remind it that you’ve survived every Monday morning so far, and you’ve got this. Whether it’s a quick meditation session, a walk in nature, or simply focusing on the taste of that delicious lunch you’re having, mindfulness helps you hit pause on the chaos and hit play on your inner calm.

    To accomplish this, try rubbing Young Living’s Grounding Essential Oil Blend on your wrists or at the back of your neck to experience a heightened awareness of your present circumstances.  It truly helps me stay focused, especially during meditation and times of self care.Grounding Essential Oil Blend that helps us be present/in the moment.

    2. Channel Your Inner Wonder Woman:

    Okay, so maybe you don’t have a lasso of truth or bulletproof bracelets (if you do, we need to talk!), but every woman has a superhero inside her. When stress comes knocking, it’s time to unleash your inner Wonder Woman. Picture her stride as you power through your to-do list, deflecting negativity like it’s bullets bouncing off her shield.

    One powerful way to channel your inner Wonder Woman is through exercise. Whether it’s kickboxing, stretching, or a good old-fashioned run, physical activity pumps those endorphins like nothing else. It’s like giving stress a one-two punch while saying, “Not today, buddy!” Plus, exercise isn’t just about fitting into those jeans—it’s about feeling strong, empowered, and ready to take on the world (or at least your inbox).

    My “go-to” Wonder Woman fix is Valor Essential oil blend.  I apply some to my chest and wrists, making me feel so much stronger and well organized.  I especially wear this before IEP meetings, parent teacher conferences, and the like.  Try some today!

    Valor Essential Oil Blend - brings bravery and peace.

    3. Laughter: The Best Medicine (and Stress Buster):

    Whoever said, “Laughter is the best medicine” clearly knew a thing or two about stress. When life throws you lemons, sometimes you just have to squeeze them into a gin and tonic and laugh about it. Whether it’s sharing a meme that speaks to your soul, binge-watching your favorite sitcom, or having a girls’ night filled with belly laughs and questionable karaoke, laughter is like a magic spell that banishes stress to the land of forgotten worries.

    So, don’t be afraid to embrace your inner comedian and find humor in the absurdity of it all. After all, if you can laugh in the face of a never-ending Zoom call or a toddler meltdown in the cereal aisle, you can conquer anything life throws your way.

     

    Stress Away from Young Living Essential Oils is the best blend when it comes to bringing serenity now.  I used this every time I had all four kids cooped up in my van waiting at a fast food drive through.  It gave me instant relief!  In my blog post, I talk more about how Stress Away blend has helped me.

    Stress Away Essential Oil Blend. I used to rub it on my nose to help me cope. True story.

    4. Treat Yourself Like Royalty:

    Last but certainly not least, let’s talk about treating yourself like the queen you are. Stress often sneaks in when we neglect our own needs, so it’s time to break out the velvet robe and crown (metaphorically, of course) and give yourself the royal treatment.

    Self-care isn’t just about bubble baths and face masks (though those are definitely encouraged!). It’s about setting boundaries, saying no when your plate is full, and indulging in activities that nourish your soul. Whether it’s curling up with a good book, taking a tech-free day to reconnect with yourself, or treating yourself to that dessert you’ve been eyeing all week, self-care is your secret weapon against stress.

    Self-care is so wonderful.  After a self-care session, we can feel like new people!  I love Stress Away bath bombs for some royal treatment!  The other go to, that makes me skin feel like a queen is the ART Skin Care Collection.  Try it!  Once you use it, nothing else will do.  Thank me later!

    Stress Away Bath Bombs

    ART Skin Care Line.Description of ART Skin care.

     

    Conclusion:

    So, there you have it, ladies—a crash course in stress-busting strategies designed to help you conquer the chaos with grace, humor, and a healthy dose of self-love. Remember, stress might be a persistent little bugger, but with mindfulness, a dash of laughter, and a whole lot of self-care, you’ve got everything you need to show it who’s boss.

    Now go forth, unleash your inner Wonder Woman with Valor (ta he he), and let’s make stress history, one deep breath and hearty laugh at a time, and a heavy anointing of essential oils. You’ve got this!

    And hey, if you found these tips helpful, share them with your fellow queens who could use a little stress-busting magic in their lives. After all, we’re all in this crazy ride together.

    Until next time, stay fabulous and stress-free!  Stress Away.

     

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