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  • Overwhelmed Isn’t a Personality Trait — It’s a Nervous System State

    Overwhelmed Isn’t a Personality Trait — It’s a Nervous System State

    Overwhelm is often a nervous system state, not a character flaw. This article aims to assist readers in calming the overwhelm with actionable results we all can take to see progress.

    Overwhelmed? How does the Nervous System Play a Part?

    Overwhelmed often shows up as the nervous system is in Flight or Fight. When our nervous system is calm: it is in Rest and Regulated.

    The nervous system includes: energy levels, mood, hormones, focus and decision making. Physically, the anatomy includes the brain and spinal cord. Then it includes nerves and ganglia (think cables connecting it all).

    Next, there is the Somatic Nervous System (Voluntary)

    This system is under your conscious control. It allows you to move your skeletal muscles—like when you decide to wave your hand or walk to the store.+1

    Autonomic Nervous System (Involuntary)

    This system runs on “autopilot.” It handles things you don’t think about, like digestion and your heartbeat. It is further divided into two famous responses:

    Parasympathetic: The “Rest and Regulated” response. It calms you down and helps your body recover.

    Sympathetic: The “Fight or Flight” response. It revs you up during stress (faster heart rate, dilated pupils).

    The entire system is built from two types of specialized cells:

    • Neurons (Nerve Cells): The stars of the show. They transmit the electrical signals. Each has a cell body, dendrites(to receive signals), and an axon (to send signals).+2
    • Glia (Glial Cells): The “support crew.” They protect, nourish, and insulate the neurons so they can work efficiently

    Signs Our Nervous System is Dysregulated

    I’ve been in relationships that have been so hard on my nervous system. Symptoms include:

    • Feeling overwhelmed easily
    • Constant fatigue
    • Irritability
    • Anxiety
    • Brain fog
    • Trouble sleeping
    • Feeling emotionally reactive
    • Difficulty focusing or completing tasks

    These are way too common in my life. (These also sound like perimenopause – yikes).

    Why Mom’s Are Especially Vulnerable

    Mom’s experience this more for many reasons. Think:

    • Constant responsibility
    • Lack of rest
    • Mental load
    • Hormonal shifts
    • Lack of support
    • Chronic multitasking
    • Solving So Many Mysteries

    For many of us, we have experienced the inability to accomplish much at all and there are reasons for this:

    You cannot build clarity, income, or stability from a disregulated state  Calm nervous systems make better decisions

    Regulation increases capacity, focus, and resilience. So now, let’s explore ways to get regulated and diminish the overwhelm.

    Simple Daily Practices That Support Nervous System Regulation

    Morning:

    • Avoid phone immediately
    • Get sunlight
    • Hydrate

    Throughout the day:

    • Slow breathing
    • Gentle movement
    • Taking breaks

    Evening:

    • Reduce stimulation
    • Calm environment
    • Consistent sleep schedule

    Focus on consistency, not perfection.

    Personal Story:

    After my husband left me in a very overwhelming, chaotic marriage. I found my days braced for impact. My nervous system was on high alert constantly.

    Reading the Bible was such a life line. Tapping helped. I practiced grounding at least daily. But what helped the very most is my small tweak that I added to my morning routine.

    Every morning, I start by applying Frankincense Essential oil to the bottoms of my feet, along with Ground oil blend. This assisted me in relaxing.

    What made an even bigger impact, is putting relaxing oils in the diffuser at night. Waking up feeling more rested is wonderful.

    My nervous system is improved as I speak positive affirmations forth daily. The mantra of my life is that my best days are ahead.

    Practicing nervous system regulating has such great benefits. It is very worth all of the hard work (Five years of trauma therapy weekly).

    Benefits of Regulating the Nervous System

    For one, I feel more relaxed. My shoulders aren’t up by my ears anymore. Being able to smile and enjoy is such a blessing.

    Clarity is a huge deal to me. Used to, my past, trauma, and shame kept me under a heavy weight. The constant chaos with overwhelm is gone. Thank God!

    My emotions are much more stable. It feels not fixating on every challenge. Not lashing out at others in adverse circumstances feel very positive (for those around me to). Stable emotions have helped me trust myself again as well.  I’m human, I still mess up at times; stability is normal for me now.

    Energy is better. I believe because I am not focused on all the things out of my control anymore. Overwhelm sometimes consists of things we can’t control, doesn’t it?

    Without the cloud of a disregulated nervous system, I can make decisions much easier. Leadership is something I’m more prepared for.

    Recap:

    Yes, getting out from under Nervous Dysregulation takes so much effort, the breakthrough is worth it! Consistency over perfection. Lately, when I am dysregulated, I’ve been grabbing lavender oil and smelling it in the cups of my hands. It helps me within seconds.

    Remember, we are not broken. Nervous system disregulation occurs for many reasons. Regulating is a learned skill. Small steps create real change. Make sure to give ourselves grace. We are human. Perfection is too high of a goal.

    What is your “go to,” when you are off? I’d love to hear in the comments below. What do you have to say about this subject? Let’s learn together. We are stronger together, better together.

    Conclusion:

    When the nervous system is more regulated, everything becomes easier. Decision making is more automated. Clarity increases. Confidence grows. This is where real change begins.

    For more on this topic, check out: This Post. Once you are more regulated, you can start building multiple streams of income. If you are interested, download my Discover Your $1,000.00 a Month Income Ideas.

     

  • More God in 2025: How Putting God First Will Help You Thrive in the New Year

    More God in 2025: How Putting God First Will Help You Thrive in the New Year

    Can you believe it’s 2025 already? Seriously, it feels like just yesterday we were debating whether the world was going to implode at the turn of the millennium. But here we are, stepping into a brand new year, full of possibilities—and let’s be honest, also a little bit of chaos. Whether you’ve already made your resolutions or you’re still figuring out how to work the whole “goal-setting” thing, I’ve got an invitation for you. It’s time to add more God to 2025.

     

    Yes, you read that right. More God. In your prayers. In your giving. In your service. In your family. In your friendships. In your job. In every single thing you do. Because, friend, when you put God first, everything else falls into place.

     

    Let’s take a quick detour to Matthew 6:33, one of the most life-changing scriptures (in my humble opinion). Jesus said, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” That’s right. If you focus on putting God first, He’ll handle the rest. The stress about your career, your family, your friendships, your finances—it all becomes manageable when we remember to prioritize Him. And trust me, this isn’t a pie-in-the-sky, “just pray about it” kind of philosophy. This is the secret sauce to thriving in 2025.

     

    So, grab a cup of coffee, your comfy socks, and let’s talk about how we can live out Matthew 6:33 this year.

    Mom dancing - More God

     

    1. More God in Prayer: It’s Not Just for Sunday Mornings

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    We all know prayer is powerful, but sometimes it feels like a forgotten practice during our busy weeks. It’s easy to fall into the trap of saying, “I’ll pray when I get around to it,” but let’s face it, sometimes “getting around to it” means forgetting all about it. But if 2025 is the year we want to thrive, we need to get intentional about prayer. Not just the “Help, God!” kind of prayers (though those are important, too), but the deep, uninterrupted moments where we sit with Him, share our hearts, and listen.

     

    I’ll be honest—my prayer life used to look a lot like my grocery list: “Lord, bless this day, help me with the kids, and oh, don’t forget to show up at the dentist’s office.” But as I’ve grown, I’ve realized that prayer isn’t just about checking off a list of requests. It’s about communion. It’s about aligning my heart with His. And trust me, when you do that—when you set aside the noise and tune into God—everything changes.

     

    One of my favorite stories about prayer comes from a friend of mine, Sarah. Sarah is a busy mom of three, and she would often joke that the only time she got peace and quiet was in the bathroom. One day, Sarah decided to try something a little different. Instead of using her bathroom time to scroll through social media, she turned it into a mini prayer retreat. She called it her “5-Minute Prayer Closet.”

     

    You know what happened? Sarah began noticing a shift in her life. She was less stressed, more patient with her kids, and her relationships felt more grounded. All because she took five minutes each day to bring her needs before God—and more importantly, to listen for His still, small voice.

     

    In 2025, let’s make prayer a daily habit. It doesn’t have to be long and elaborate. It just needs to be intentional.  To put this into practice, please complete the Prayer Request Form.  Let us stand with you in prayer.

     

    2. More God in Giving: It’s More Than Just Money

    Mom giving hugs

     

    You might be thinking, “Uh oh, here comes the money talk.” But hang on—when I say giving, I don’t just mean tithing or writing a check. Yes, those things are important, but giving is about so much more than that. In fact, it’s about generosity in all areas of life. It’s about giving your time, your energy, your encouragement, and yes, even your resources.
    I recently heard about a woman in my church who had a simple rule when it came to generosity: “If I have it, it’s not mine.” She saw everything she had as a gift from God and made it a point to share. If someone needed a meal, she would cook it. If someone needed a ride, she was there. If there was a prayer need, she would drop everything to pray with them. She didn’t wait for some grand occasion to give; she just lived in a constant state of generosity.

     

    This year, let’s take a page from her book. More God in giving means cultivating a generous heart. It doesn’t always have to be huge. Sometimes the smallest act of kindness can be the most meaningful. And when we give with a heart full of gratitude, God multiplies it in ways we could never imagine.

     

    3. More God in Service: It’s Not About You—It’s About Others

    Mom cleaning - giving service

     

    Let’s face it: we are all busy. Between work, family, friends, and trying to maintain a semblance of self-care (hello, Netflix and a good bubble bath), it’s easy to overlook the needs of others. But when we choose to serve others, we put the spotlight on God. And I’m not talking about just volunteering at church or at a food bank (although those are great!). I’m talking about looking for opportunities every day to serve.

     

    Whether it’s a neighbor who needs help with groceries or a colleague who’s struggling with a project, serving others is one of the most powerful ways we can reflect God’s love. When we choose to serve, we’re modeling Jesus, who didn’t come to be served but to serve. It’s humbling, but it’s also a game-changer.

     

    I served at an inner-city mission every Friday night. But instead of feeling drained, it filled me up with energy and joy. Each person I served was a reminder of God’s love, and each interaction helped me grow in compassion. Plus, I started seeing some of the same faces each week, which led to real relationships and opportunities to share the gospel, along with some wild stories (like the woman who peed during Bible Study) – ha!

     

    In 2025, let’s make service a regular part of our lives. It’s a way to show up for others and, in turn, show up for God.  In our Facebook Group, I am starting a Bible Study on Service.  Please watch the videos.  They encourage my heart so much!  It is my hope that they spur you on to love and good works too!

     

    4. More God in Our Jobs: He Cares About Your Work

    Mom working while holding a baby.

     

    Okay, I know that some days your job feels like a never-ending grind. Maybe you’re stuck in a job you don’t love, or maybe you’re feeling burnout creeping in. Here’s the good news: God cares about your work. Whether you’re working from home or in a corporate office, He’s got a purpose for you in the workplace.

     

    In Colossians 3:23, we are reminded to work “as if we are working for the Lord, not for human masters.” This means every project, every email, and every phone call can be an opportunity to honor God.

     

    Take my friend Emily, for example. Emily was a lawyer who had been in the corporate world for years. She didn’t love her job, but she was committed to doing it well, knowing that her work had a larger purpose. One day, a new client came into her office, and she quickly realized this person needed more than legal advice—they needed compassion. Emily took the time to listen, offer advice that went beyond the legal realm, and pray with her client. That moment of service not only changed her client’s life, but it also transformed Emily’s heart toward her work.

     

    In 2025, let’s work with a heart of service, knowing that every task, big or small, is an opportunity to glorify God.

     

    5. More God in Our Families: The Foundation of Everything

    More Family

     

    Your family might be your biggest challenge or your biggest joy—or maybe it’s both. Regardless, God has placed you in your family for a reason, and when you bring Him into the center of your home, everything changes.

     

    My friend Jessica shared how, after a particularly rough year with her kids, she realized she needed to start praying over her home daily. So, she and her husband began gathering their children each morning for a 5-minute prayer time before school. They’d pray for their day, their hearts, and each other. Jessica said the shift was almost immediate. Arguments decreased. Patience increased. And the overall atmosphere of their home was more peaceful.

     

    In 2025, let’s make our families a place where God is honored, not just in our words but in our actions. Whether it’s a family prayer time or simply choosing grace over frustration, putting God first in our homes will make a lasting impact.

     

    Speaking of making a lasting impact; I made a small purchase for my youngest daughter that has really stirred the flame of faith in her life.  She loves to pull Bible Verses from a jar that I bought on Amazon.  Bible Verses are sorted into colors that reflect different emotional states.  She reads the verses to me and I try to guess the emotion it represents.  My heart soars as this fosters great Godly communication between us.

     

    6. More God in Our Friendships: Real Connection

    More Friends.  2 moms with baby in stroller

     

    Lastly, let’s talk about friendships. You know, the kind of friendships where you can be your real, unfiltered self (which may or may not include a few choice words when things go awry). God created us for community, and He’s called us to be iron sharpening iron. This means your friendships should be a place where you’re building each other up, praying for each other, and keeping each other accountable.

     

    A few years ago, I had a friend who always seemed to have a prophetic word or scripture ready when I was struggling. She wasn’t pushy about it, but she gently pointed me back to Jesus. Those moments meant the world to me because I knew I wasn’t walking this faith journey alone.

     

    In 2025, let’s choose to be intentional about our friendships. Let’s invest in people who are pointing us back to Christ and lifting us up.

     

    Conclusion:

     

    So, are you ready to add more God to 2025? Whether it’s in your prayers, your giving, your service, your work, your family, or your friendships, putting God first is the key to thriving this year. I believe, as Matthew 6:33 says, that when we seek God first, everything else will fall into place. You don’t have to have it all figured out—you just need to keep God at the center, and watch Him work miracles in your life.

     

    Let’s make 2025 the year of More God. Because, with Him, we can thrive!
    PS. For another post that will help you, check out: Bible Verses that Will Help You Sleep.  
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