Tag: mom life

  • A Simple Evening Routine for Stressed Moms (When Your Brain Won’t Shut Off)

    A Simple Evening Routine for Stressed Moms (When Your Brain Won’t Shut Off)

    Stress Away? Stress: Let’s just call it what it is…

    We finally sit down at night…
    and instead of relaxing…

    Our brain is like:

    “Hey. Now that you’re still…
    let’s replay everything you didn’t finish today.”

    or

    “Hey, let’s rethink every conversation from every angle.”

    Cool. Love that for us.


    The truth of the matter is…

    We aren’t bad at relaxing,

    We are just overloaded, over stimulated, over responsible.

    All. Day. Long.

    We are:

    • answering questions
    • solving problems
    • breaking up fights
    • remembering everything for everyone
    • and somehow still trying to drink water and be a kind human

    It’s a lot.

    So when the house gets quiet?

    Our body is tired…
    but our brain is still clocked in. Sadly.


    So what do we actually do about it?

    Not a 27-step routine.

    Not something you’ll quit in 2 days.

    We’re doing a 5-minute evening routine for stressed moms
    that actually fits real life.

    Messy life. Loud life. Mom life.


    🌙 Your 5-Minute Reset (real life version)

    1. Turn the world down (1 minute)

    No big speech here.

    Just:

    • turn off bright lights
    • put your phone on silent
    • stop the input

    We are basically telling our brain:

    “The show is over. Go home.”


    2. Give your body a signal (1 minute)

    Your body needs a cue that it’s safe to relax.

    This is where I personally use
    Young Living Stress Away

    Not because it’s magic.

    But because it’s consistent.

    • roll it on wrists
    • smell it
    • take a slow breath

    Done.

    It becomes your brain’s little signal of:

    “Oh… we’re winding down now.”


    3. Fix your shoulders (because… yikes) (1–2 minutes)

    Be honest…

    Your shoulders are somewhere near your ears right now, aren’t they?

    Try this:

    • roll them back slowly
    • stretch your neck side to side
    • unclench your jaw (this one gets me every time)

    You’re not working out.

    You’re just telling your body:

    “You can let go now.”


    4. Get tomorrow out of your head (1 minute)

    THIS is the big one.

    Grab anything — notebook, receipt, random paper.

    Write down:

    • your top 3 priorities for tomorrow

    Not 15.

    Not your entire life plan.

    Just 3.

    Because your brain doesn’t need more pressure…
    it needs closure.


    5. Finally, Sit like a normal human (30 seconds)

    No phone.

    No scrolling.

    No “just one more thing.”

    Just sit.

    I know… groundbreaking.

    But this is where your body actually catches up.

    Awe, doesn’t this feel better?


    Why this works (and why most routines don’t)

    Because this isn’t about becoming a different person.

    This is about giving your nervous system a pattern.

    Same steps. Same order. Same signal.

    After a few nights, your brain starts to recognize:

    “Oh… this means we’re done.”

    And THAT is when you finally start to relax at night as a mom.


    Let’s talk about the oil real quick

    You don’t need anything fancy to do this.

    You really don’t.

    But…

    Scent is one of the fastest ways to calm your body.

    That’s why I use Young Living Stress Away

    Not as a miracle.

    Just as a simple, repeatable cue.

    And honestly?

    As moms… we need simple. I used this oil in my mini mom mobile vents when the kids were all crying waiting in the drive through line. It’s a keeper!


    If you’re overwhelmed right now…

    Start tonight.

    Not Monday.
    Not when life slows down (lol… right).

    Tonight.

    Even if you only do 2 steps.

    Even if your kids interrupt you 3 times.

    Even if it’s messy.

    Progress over perfect. Always.

    My tid bit: I don’t do this wind down routine anymore. Nope. I just put oils on my feet and in my diffuser, and that’s all she wrote: I am out – for the count.

    Even with menopause, now post menopause – I sleep hard, and good!


    Want this in a super simple cheat sheet?

    Because I know you don’t want to remember all this at 9:47pm 🙂

    I made a quick “Evening Reset” you can follow step-by-step.

    Grab it here:

    Or comment RESET and I’ll send it to you.


    Final thought

    You don’t need a new life to feel better, your sweet life here and now is better than you know.

    You need small systems that work inside your current life.

    This is one of them.

    And the best part?

    It takes less time than scrolling your phone.

  • You Didn’t Fail. You Were Overwhelmed.

    You Didn’t Fail. You Were Overwhelmed.

    You Didn’t Fail 

    We didn’t fail.  We are all just overwhelmed at times.  So many choices to choose from.  Too many shiny objects glistening for our attention.  It brings confusion, self doubt, and the question, “Is that going to be better than what I have?”

    If you’ve spent money trying to figure out how to make money online…

    and it still hasn’t worked…

    I need you to hear this:

    You didn’t fail.

    You were overwhelmed.  And to this I say, “Me too.”  Been there.  Done that.


    You Didn’t Fail at Trying

    You tried to follow programs and “solutions” that:

     

      • required more time than you have

      • expected more energy than you can give

      • and assumed your life was quieter than it actually is
    •  
      • not to mention, you’d make way more money faster than even came close to being reality.

    Ouch.

    I know it hurts.  Getting zero back from thousands invested stings.  

    That’s not your fault.

    That’s a mismatch. 

    (And honestly, there may be a method to get what you’ve invested back many times over.  Stick around for more on that later.  If you are really curious: message me any time.)


    You Didn’t Fail at Programs

    Most programs are built for people who can:

     

      • sit and focus for hours

      • test things all day

      • think strategically without interruption
    •  
      • (These aren’t real people.  At least not moms with little kids and lives outside of their phones and laptops.)

    That’s not most moms (none that I know)!


    Fail?  And Get Back Up – Smarter.  Stronger.

    So what happens?

    You try.
    You get inconsistent.
    You feel behind.
    You start to question yourself.

    Insert the snow ball effect.  The lapses keep compounding until quitting is the easiest or even just putting the “course” in the background and moving forward.  Sound familiar?


    But here’s the truth:

    You don’t need another course.

    You need:

     

      • fewer steps

      • clearer direction (clarity is crucial)

      • something you can repeat on your hardest day

    And here is where we try again with our new smarts and strengths.


    Failing To Simplify

    I’m talking about something simple enough to follow even when you’re tired.

    Simple strategies that make it easy to operate even on hard days.  Think simple checklists, Daily Mission Operations, with emphasis on Income Producing Activities.  Imagine waking up with clarity, knowing exactly what to do!


    Succeeding with Simple!

    That’s what I’m building right now.

    Not perfect.
    Not fancy.

    Just real systems that work in real life.  This isn’t fluff.  If you’d like I will send you a simple list of 10 systems the simply implement today.


    And if you’re still here… still trying…

    That means something.  You’re not done.  You just haven’t had the right structure yet.


    Stay.

    We’ll figure it out together.  I have ideas galore and if they worked for me: a single mom with 4 kids, (three that needed extra help)… you can do it too.  

    So stick around.  The BEST is yet to come!  Questions?  Put them in the comments below.  I’m here for you.

    Make sure to subscribe to my email, and you’ll receive my free E Book, 9 Streams of Income Working From Home.  This resource is customized to you!  

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  • The Ultimate Self-Care Arsenal: Your New Best Friends!

    The Ultimate Self-Care Arsenal: Your New Best Friends!

    The Ultimate Self-Care Arsenal: Your New Best Friends!

    Hey, lovely ladies! 🌟

    Self-care helps us greatly in so many ways.  Let’s be real, we all deserve a little pampering. Whether you’re a busy mom, a boss babe, or just someone who loves to binge-watch Netflix in sweats (no judgment here!), I’ve got a lineup of tremendous treasures and lotions that will have you feeling like the queen you are. So grab your favorite beverage (it’s always coffee time), and let’s dive in!

    1. Self-Care Lume Bath wash: The Freshness You Didn’t Know You Needed

    The ultimate all over self-care… First up, we have Lume Bath wash. Now, I know what you might be thinking: “Bath wash? Really?” But hear me out! This isn’t just any bath wash; it’s like a party for your skin! With Lume, you get to cleanse yourself while smelling like a delicious treat—think cookies or fresh flowers, not gym socks or taco meat.

    And the best part? It’s pH balanced, which means you won’t feel like you’ve just walked through a desert after your shower. Trust me, your skin will thank you, and you’ll feel fresher than a daisy! Plus, you can strut around feeling like you just stepped out of a luxurious spa instead of your tiny bathroom.  Even the unmentionables smell wonderful. =)

    Woman in bathtub washing her face.

    And on those days that include yard work, hikes, hot-sticky rooms with no air movement (and no time to shower): I keep this little friend on hand… Lume deodorant.  It comes in small travel size bottles.  I keep the travel size containers close at hand.  Big bottles stay in my house.  We can’t go wrong with these!  I smell fresh for days.

    2. Pampered Nivea Firming Cream: Because Gravity Is Not Our Friend

    Another great self-care remedy, next on the list is Nivea Firming Cream. Let’s face it, as we age, gravity becomes a real buzzkill. This cream is like a personal trainer for your skin, minus the sweat and awkward gym encounters. Packed with ingredients that actually work, it’ll help firm up all those areas.

    woman pouring lotion into hand

    Just a little dab, and you’ll feel like you’re getting a mini lift without needing to book a flight or break the bank. So go ahead, slather it on and strut confidently like you own the place! (Bonus points if you do a little hair flip.)

    3. Self-Care – Castor Oil: For Lush Lashes That Could Stop Traffic

    Self-care quickly is the name of this game.  Ladies, if you’re looking to take your lashes to the next level, let me introduce you to the wonder that is castor oil. Yep, that’s right! This treasure is not just for your grandma’s homemade remedies. Just a little swipe on your lashes before bed, and you’ll wake up with lashes so long and luscious they could make even the most famous Instagram models envious.

    Eyelashes

    And let’s be honest, who doesn’t want to bat those lashes and get a little extra attention? Just remember to apply it sparingly—no one wants to accidentally give off a “spider legs” vibe!  I also rub the extra into areas of my body that are a little too “jello jiggly.”  The Castor Oil helps firm and tame stretch marks as well.  Bazinga!

    4. Self-Care Apple Cider Vinegar: The Bloating Buster

    Lastly edible self-care, let’s talk about the sometimes-awkward topic of bloating. If you’re like me, you sometimes feel like a balloon after a heavy meal. Enter apple cider vinegar, your new best friend in the battle against bloat!

    apple cider vinegar for bloating

    A splash in your water (preferably not straight from the bottle unless you enjoy the taste of vinegar—bless your soul if you do) can help you feel lighter and more comfortable. I fill up a glass of water about half way full, add a splash of Apple Cider Vinegar, and add a few drops of Young Living’s  Vitality Lemon Essential Oil.  It helps it taste better.  The lemon is great for the kidney’s.  Winner!  Winner!

     Product Wrap-Up

    So there you have it—your self-care arsenal ready to tackle whatever life throws at you. With Lume Bath wash for freshness, Nivea Firming Cream for a little lift, castor oil for those jaw-dropping lashes, and apple cider vinegar to keep the bloat at bay, you’re all set to conquer the world!

    Now go on, treat yourself, and remember: self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential. You deserve it, darling! 💖

    What are your go-to self-care products? Share in the comments!  I would LOVE to try your suggestions.

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    For more about Self-care, check out this blog about Stress Busting 101 and How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience.

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