Tag: choices

  • You Didn’t Fail. You Were Overwhelmed.

    You Didn’t Fail. You Were Overwhelmed.

    You Didn’t Fail 

    We didn’t fail.  We are all just overwhelmed at times.  So many choices to choose from.  Too many shiny objects glistening for our attention.  It brings confusion, self doubt, and the question, “Is that going to be better than what I have?”

    If you’ve spent money trying to figure out how to make money online…

    and it still hasn’t worked…

    I need you to hear this:

    You didn’t fail.

    You were overwhelmed.  And to this I say, “Me too.”  Been there.  Done that.

    You Didn’t Fail at Trying

    You tried to follow programs and “solutions” that:

     

      • required more time than you have

      • expected more energy than you can give

      • and assumed your life was quieter than it actually is
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      • not to mention, you’d make way more money faster than even came close to being reality.

    Ouch.

    I know it hurts.  Getting zero back from thousands invested stings.  

    That’s not your fault.

    That’s a mismatch. 

    (And honestly, there may be a method to get what you’ve invested back many times over.  Stick around for more on that later.  If you are really curious: message me any time.)

    You Didn’t Fail at Programs

    Most programs are built for people who can:

     

      • sit and focus for hours

      • test things all day

      • think strategically without interruption
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      • (These aren’t real people.  At least not moms with little kids and lives outside of their phones and laptops.)

    That’s not most moms (none that I know)!

    Fail?  And Get Back Up – Smarter.  Stronger.

    So what happens?

    You try.
    You get inconsistent.
    You feel behind.
    You start to question yourself.

    Insert the snow ball effect.  The lapses keep compounding until quitting is the easiest or even just putting the “course” in the background and moving forward.  Sound familiar?

    But here’s the truth:

    You don’t need another course.

    You need:

     

      • fewer steps

      • clearer direction (clarity is crucial)

      • something you can repeat on your hardest day

    And here is where we try again with our new smarts and strengths.

    Failing To Simplify

    I’m talking about something simple enough to follow even when you’re tired.

    Simple strategies that make it easy to operate even on hard days.  Think simple checklists, Daily Mission Operations, with emphasis on Income Producing Activities.  Imagine waking up with clarity, knowing exactly what to do!

    Succeeding with Simple!

    That’s what I’m building right now.

    Not perfect.
    Not fancy.

    Just real systems that work in real life.  This isn’t fluff.  If you’d like I will send you a simple list of 10 systems the simply implement today.

    And if you’re still here… still trying…

    That means something.  You’re not done.  You just haven’t had the right structure yet.

    Stay.

    We’ll figure it out together.  I have ideas galore and if they worked for me: a single mom with 4 kids, (three that needed extra help)… you can do it too.  

    So stick around.  The BEST is yet to come!  Questions?  Put them in the comments below.  I’m here for you.

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    For more information along this topic, check out this post. 

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  • The Great Impasse

    The Great Impasse

    Impasses: life is full of them. Order grilled or the much yummier deep fried. Go to bed early, stay up late. Delay gratification for eternal gain.

    Impasses all throughout the day. But the greatest impasse stared me in the face this week. This great impasse that I am referring to today is operating out of faith or fear.

    Impasse: Defense or Offense

    Often the differentiating factor in this impasse is operating from defense or offense. In other words are we responding to what life throws at us (defensively)or are we creating our own kingdom (offensively)? The first group often gets their teeth kicked in, whilst the second group are pioneering forward. Which group are you?

    Impasse: Fear or Faith?

    These two groups are often separated by fear and faith. Fear responds. It is the accronym

    F – alse

    E – vidence

    A -ppearing

    R – eal.

    Or we can say:

    F – focused only on the problem

    E – Expects defeat

    A – Attitude of self-protection

    R – Runs the problem

    It spirals downward in defeat. Who wants to live like that? Fear keeps us small. A life like this seems more of a nightmare to me.

    This group keeps their hands clinched in tension. Their demeanor is watching for what will go wrong. No offense, but I do not find living like this enjoyable.

    The impasse:

    I joined a training this week. Much of it wrapped around AI and learning how to implement it daily. But the biggest take away I found, was living from faith.

    Instead of preserving on what may go wrong. It has me expecting what will go right! Faith is a whole different way of living.

    The choice of faith always spirals upward into action and victory! See this accronym that helps me much more than the affomentioned did.

    F – focused on God

    A – anticipates God’s help

    I – Insists on being involved

    T – Takes Time to prepare

    H – Has an impact on everyone

    Printable Resource

    Great Impasse

    The Impasse For Us

    So I thought about my life. I believe I’m living by faith in most areas. But there is one glaring one that I have been completely clinched in fear.

    Fear has gripped me in personal church attendance. I admit it. After being married to two pastors (at different times to be clear). My trust in the American Church has been slim to nil.

    However, God still commands His people throughout scripture to attend church. (Psalm 122:1, Hebrews 10:24-25, etc).

    To walk out my faith, this Wednesday, I went to small church in person. I still watched online this Sunday morning, but it is baby steps forward.

    I share this to be vulnerable and own my fear. My focus wants to be on my perfect God, not his imperfect people.

    Impasse:

    What area do you need to switch into faith mode? A very good thermometer, to test the temperature of what kingdom we are living out of is to look at our words. Matthew 12: 34 says out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Proverbs 18: 21 says life and death are in the power of the tongue.

    It is my belief that death = fear. However, life = faith. Speak life and watch our world be formed according to the words of our mouth.

    It’s never too late. Start operating by faith today. Share some faith stories in the comments below. #strongertogether #bettertogether

    For more on this subject, check out this post: https://womenencouragement.com/the-daily-christian-affirmations-for-women/

    I host a small cohort.  I’d like to share the mantra that we speak over our lives in this group.  It is definitely an anthem of faith. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Bxil-vG-I27tnOXj-sTlFdEjhqNrZ4rbn4LSdOhUO6g/edit?usp=sharing

    Share this with someone who needs reminded there is more than living with clinched hands.  Let’s spread our faith and soar!  It’s harvest time.

    For More Along These Lines

    Check out the book The Hope Quotient by Ray Johnston. See: https://granitebay.baysideonline.com/leadership/
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  • The End of the American Dream (And What Comes Next for Moms Like Us)

    The End of the American Dream (And What Comes Next for Moms Like Us)

    The End of the American Dream? What could I possibly mean? I believe we were sold a lie.

    Work hard through high school. Get into a great college. Choose your life path before our brains were fully developed.

    Graduate with honors in our field. Work for the man for 40-50 years at the same company, in the same field.  (It sounds so monotonous).

    Some of our parents did it. A few were happy with it. Most that I was around seemed miserable. But still, we followed the American Dream set forth or American Delusion, however your perspective is.

    Many of us knew nothing else. But from the expressions on people’s faces as we commute to work, it looks like they are living more of a nightmare or at least an “Auto Mode Daze.”  Am I wrong?

    The American Nightmare?

    But the Numbers Tell a Different Story

    Today?  Only about 62% of high school graduates even go to college.  And of those who start… Nearly 40% don’t finish.  Almost half of the people who follow the “right path” never reach the finish line. What happens to them?  I hope they don’t all work at Panera forever (or any lifeless job for that matter).

    And Even If You Graduate…

    Here’s the part no one talks about:  Only about 30–40% of graduates actually start in a job in their field.  So what happens to everyone else? Oh no, not Panera (cringing face). Most pivot.

    They struggle, figuring out as they go. (I think of jobs like draining porta potties, digging ditches, etc.)…

    American’s are Burned Out?

    Meanwhile… People Are Burned Out

    Let’s talk about real life.  Only about 3 out of 10 people feel engaged at work.  Up to 70%+ feel disconnected, stuck, or just going through the motions

    Burnout?  It’s not rare anymore. It’s normal. No wonder the expressions on people’s faces as we commute.

    Consequently: So now we have: Women who did everything “right”… And still feel like something is missing. Boy, can I relate.

    Spending my life making other people’s dreams come true feels empty. Watching bosses bend etiquette. Experiencing undo rage from supervisors. Working hours at home just to squeak by the 40 hour grind on site (too heavy of a work load to fit the hours). It feels like a nightmare, not a dream.

    I don’t know about you, but I’ve worked jobs where I’m afraid to use the bathroom without being berated. Cancelling doctor’s appointments, missing kids events because of a boss who couldn’t handle the office alone. It was enough to give me some substantial gut issues without a decent pay to make up for the stress.

    So… Did the American Dream Fail?

    Not exactly. But it changed. The truth is:

    The American Dream didn’t disappear…
    it just stopped being handed out in a straight line.

    What Moms Are Starting to Realize

    More and more women are quietly asking:

      • “Is this it?”

      • “Why am I working this hard and still stressed?”

      • “What if there’s another way?”

    Not because they’re lazy. It’s because they’re awake.

    The New Dream Looks Different

    It’s not about one job anymore. It’s about:

    ✔ Multiple streams of income
    ✔ Flexibility
    ✔ Being present with your kids
    ✔ Not relying on one paycheck for your entire life

    It’s about building something that actually supports your life. Let’s be honest, unless you are in the upper echelon of a corporation, we just can’t survive on one full time job in America anymore, unless we have heavy debt or dual incomes.

    The American Dream Confused

    But Here’s Where Most Women Get Stuck

    They know they want something different…

    But they don’t know where to start. So they:

      • Try random side hustles (wasting a ton of money in the process)

      • Burn out even more

      • Get discouraged

    Because no one gave them a simple system or even a path forward.

    The American Dream on Sterroids

    This Is Why I Created Something Different

    There’s No hype. It’s absent of pressure.
    And it absolutely not “sell your soul for a quick buck.”  It’s a real, honest way forward.

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    If you’re sitting there thinking:

    “I know I need something different… I just don’t know what?”

    I made this for you:

    My “9 Streams of Income You Can Start From Home” Guide

    It will help you:

     

      • Identify what you’re actually good at

      • See real options (not fluff)

      • Start thinking differently about income

    Only clarity will come from this.  No pressure.  There will be no dread.

    This fits with your personality.  You get to see how others are thriving with each of these income streams.  

    This Is Why I Created Something Different

    This isn’t fluffy, or bubble gum flavored.  It sure isn’t “vanilla.”  This presents options for you to choose from.

    It is a real, honest way to start.  Customized for you and by your liking.

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    If you’re sitting there thinking:

    “I know I need something different… I just don’t know what”

    I made this for you:

     My “9 Streams of Income You Can Start From Home” Guide

    It will help you:

     

      • Identify what you’re actually good at

      • See real options (not fluff)

      • Start thinking differently about income

    The American Dream Revised

    Remember, you aren’t failing and you certainly aren’t behind. There are ways of expanding income! You don’t need to reinvent the wheel.

    Download this E Book, and reach out with any thoughts or questions. I am here for you!  By implementing multiple streams of income you insulate yourself from the destruction of one stream of income.

    With this strategy, you can have a safety net behind you, despite the economy.  Multiple streams of income insures you thrive, regardless of what may be going on around us.  

    For more on topics such as these.  Check out this post.  

    We are stronger together.  So much better… together.  Share this with someone who needs hope.

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