Tag: balance

  • From Burnout to Balance: Systems Over Stress

    From Burnout to Balance: Systems Over Stress

    Burnout to Balance: this should help you get your breath. Systems over stress are about strategies that bring order above chaos.  This is my story.

    How It Started: Burnout

    I was in burnout, trying to build Women Encouragement while working 40 plus hours a week. Burning the candle at both ends can last on adrenaline and grit for a time, but over months and years; burnout is inevitable.

    I kept the sprint for about fifteen months, but then hit a wall… hard. Health problems started to plague my body. Being prompt was blowing out the window. Delay seemed to be the heavy cloud over my head.

    Multi tasking until the wee hours of the morning to only do it again the next day, ushered in depression. We can’t give, what we don’t have. Running on empty steals. It causes clenched jaws, shoulders at the ears, and numbness.

    Burnout to Balance

    The Good Lord brought me systems over stress. I wanted to keep the ever running energizer bunny mode on. God thought otherwise.

    I quit a very chaotic environmental job. I had another position lined up, but they (four days before my start date) rescinded my acceptance letter. For four glorious months, I have been able to concentrate on systems over stress. I can not exaggerate how much I needed the past 160 days of down time.

    Burnout to Balance

    At first the hamster wheel was my comfort. I didn’t have a clue as to life off of it. If I wasn’t selling, creating, doing something – what was there to do?

     

    Slowly the onion peeled. Our culture tells us to grind harder. We are exhausted and ashamed of it, so we try so hard to appear rested. The burnout is real.

    After about two weeks I finally noticed me quietly picking up books again, baking, and watching shows just for fun. I was suddenly allowed to be me!

    Burnout to Balance

    Not everyone gets a job lapse. So, let me share some strategies that evade the burnout, bringing balance.

    Balanced Mornings

    First, the morning routine truly is the Secret Sauce from going from Burn out to Balance. I just finished the 5 AM Club, which was a strange little read. However, the morning schedule shared in the book is sunshine.

    Taking the morning to center, calm, meditate, exercise, and read is a huge game changer. Don’t knock it until you try it. This one small system was the quickest savior from the Hamster Wheel.

    Balanced Email Systems

    Secondly,

    Burnout to Balance is helpful in having an email strategy that rescues us from overwhelm (who doesn’t have a full inbox?). It can save hours of searching, struggling, trying to make it make sense. You can find more about this strategy: HERE

    Balanced by Time Blocking

     

    Thirdly,

    Burnout to Balance happened when I started time blocking. Good bye multitasking. Hello focused attention on one thing. This allows me to stay in the zone without feeling spread thin (where much of burnout comes from).

    Time blockers help me with an uptick of production as well. When I was cramming it all in while working 40 plus hours a week, I felt so scattered, it was tough to find results anywhere.

    Balanced Planning

    Fourth,

    From Burnout to Balance, I strongly suggest making a plan. By making a plan before the next day, I wake up with intention. There is no half a$$ing a day. I know what needs to be accomplished for things to move forward.

    This keeps me from coasting. Having a few things written down or typed in my phone, keeps me from channel surfing or doom scrolling.

    This resource might help you as well.  I wrote it, and it contains two systems for content creation.  Check it out HERE.

    Balanced with Social Media Strategy

    Lastly,

    Burnout to Balance: social media edition… have a plan in place. I now keep a huge monthly calendar of content creation on my bedroom wall. This keeps me from throwing social media content out there and praying it works (giving me a concrete plan). Utilizing this system combats burnout because I have a reference point to implement instead of constant fretting over what might work, what should I post today, etc.

    I sit down with the AI masters (Gemini, Chat gpt) and figure it out with them. These sit down sessions are almost always under an hour. This alone gives me such great guardrails for what I’m doing on the webbernets. I strongly suggest this yourself.

    How do you know if you are burned out? Great question. I made a list of the symptoms of burnout. You can download it: (complete the form at the bottom of this post).

    Balance:

    To recover from Burnout, I found I needed more sleep. I’m talking about hibernation level rest. My body craved it hard. Give yourself permission to rest to recover from burnout.

    Slowly add some systems to your day. This keeps chaos at bay. I find hustle culture breeds chaos like rabbits breed bunnies (it happens quickly). When we have systems in order, they act as the net below the acrobats at the circus to keep us safe.

    Sometimes, people pull on me to break out of systems. I respond, “Sorry, I’m booked at that time.” Systems are much like boundaries: they keep the good in and the evil at bay.

    My Burnout/Balance Story

    It took me about a full thirty days to feel truly me again. If you don’t have thirty days: I encourage you to take breaks. Give yourself micro vacations to walk outside. Drink your favorite beverage. Eat some favorites. Savor the good in life. Self care as much as possible. In time we will be off the hamster wheel. It is just a matter of time.

    If you’d like more along these lines, meet me for my Zoom, Mondays at 7:00pm called the Mom Reset. It’s quick, under 45 minutes and will bring a breath of fresh air to us all. Comment below for the link.

    What have done to get out of burnout?  I’d love to hear what worked for you.  Let’s cheer each other on, celebrating each other!  Be blessed

  • Self-Care Wheel and Why You Need to Use It!

    Self-Care Wheel and Why You Need to Use It!

    Why Self-Care Isn’t Just Bubble Baths

    Self care.  Specifically, the Self-Care Wheel, but who has time for that?  Let’s be real. We’re juggling a million things: careers, kids, relationships, that weird stain on the couch that we swear wasn’t there yesterday. Sometimes, we feel like we’re running on fumes, and “self-care” gets shoved to the bottom of the to-do list, right next to “organize the junk drawer.” But here’s the thing: you can’t pour from an empty cup, and that cup is looking mighty parched.  I have a fun framework to help us find self-care.  Ready?  Set?  Go!

     

    Enter the glorious Self-Care Wheel. Think of it as your personal roadmap to not losing your marbles. Forget the idea that self-care is just face masks and spa days (though those are nice, let’s be honest). It’s about nourishing all aspects of your life.
    So, what are these magical eight segments of the wheel? Let’s dive in, shall we?

    self-care-wheel-worksheet

     

    The Wheel of Self-Care1. Physical Self-Care Wheel: Move It, Girl!

    The first area of the Self-Care Wheel that comes to mind is our physical self.  This is about taking care of your amazing body. We’re talking sleep, nutrition, and exercise. You don’t have to run a marathon (unless you want to!), but moving your body in a way that feels good is crucial. As Dr. Christine Carter, a sociologist at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, says, “Sleep is the single most effective thing we can do to reset our brain and body health each day.” So, ditch the late-night scrolling and get some Zzz’s!

     

    2. Emotional Self-Care Wheel: Feel All the Feels (Without Exploding)

    This is about acknowledging and processing your emotions in a healthy way. Journaling, talking to a friend, or even just having a good cry (hello, rom-coms!) are all valid. As Brené Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston, reminds us, “Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.” 1 . Embrace those feels, ladies!  This area of the self-care may need the most quality time to address. 

    3. Social Self-Care Wheel: Your Tribe is Your Vibe

    Humans are social creatures, and we need connection. Make time for your friends and family, even if it’s just a quick coffee date. As Dr. Vivek Murthy, the U.S. Surgeon General, emphasizes, “Loneliness is far more than just a bad feeling—it harms both mental and physical health.”  So, call your bestie, plan a girls’ night, and reconnect!

     

    4. Spiritual Self-Care Wheel: Find Your InnerPeace

    This isn’t necessarily about religion, but about finding meaning and purpose in your life. It could be meditation, spending time in nature, or volunteering. Whatever feeds your soul!  For me, it is spending time in God’s Word, worshipping Him, and praying.

     

    5. Intellectual Self-Care Wheel: Keep That Brain Buzzing

    The Self-Care Wheel includes or soul.  Stimulate your mind! Read a book, learn a new skill, or listen to a podcast. Challenge yourself and keep those brain cells happy.  Or for me, it’s taking a break and watching a romantic comedy.  Either way, we win!

     

    6. Financial Self-Care Wheel: Money Moves (That Don’t Involve Impulse Buys)

    This is about managing your finances responsibly and reducing stress. Create a budget, save for a rainy day, and maybe even treat yourself to that thing you’ve been eyeing (within reason, of course!).  This brings so much security to our lives!  Read more about it HERE.

     

    7. Environmental Self-Care Wheel: Your Space, Your Sanctuary

    Create a space that makes you feel good. Declutter, add some plants, or light a candle. Your environment impacts your mood, so make it a happy place.  I love this area… it’s most likely my favorite on the wheel!

     

    8. Occupational Self-Care Wheel: Love What You Do (Or Find a Way To)

    This is about finding satisfaction in your work. If you’re feeling burnt out, it might be time to reassess. Talk to your boss, explore new opportunities, or find ways to make your current job more fulfilling.

     

    Why is this wheel important for us women, specifically?
    Because we often put everyone else’s needs before our own. We’re the caregivers, the multitaskers, the superheroes. But even superheroes need to recharge! By focusing on all eight areas of the Self-Care Wheel, you’ll be more balanced, resilient, and ready to tackle whatever life throws your way.

    Blank Self-Care Wheel

     

    Your Turn!
    Which area of the Self-Care Wheel do you want to focus on this week? Leave a comment below and let’s inspire each other! Let’s get those wheels turning, ladies!  Share this on your social media too, let’s encourage more ladies, making a greater difference (Jude 22).
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