We didn’t fail. We are all just overwhelmed at times. So many choices to choose from. Too many shiny objects glistening for our attention. It brings confusion, self doubt, and the question, “Is that going to be better than what I have?”
If you’ve spent money trying to figure out how to make money online…
and it still hasn’t worked…
I need you to hear this:
You didn’t fail.
You were overwhelmed. And to this I say, “Me too.” Been there. Done that.
You Didn’t Fail at Trying
You tried to follow programs and “solutions” that:
required more time than you have
expected more energy than you can give
and assumed your life was quieter than it actually is
not to mention, you’d make way more money faster than even came close to being reality.
Ouch.
I know it hurts. Getting zero back from thousands invested stings.
That’s not your fault.
That’s a mismatch.
(And honestly, there may be a method to get what you’ve invested back many times over. Stick around for more on that later. If you are really curious: message me any time.)
You Didn’t Fail at Programs
Most programs are built for people who can:
sit and focus for hours
test things all day
think strategically without interruption
(These aren’t real people. At least not moms with little kids and lives outside of their phones and laptops.)
That’s not most moms (none that I know)!
Fail? And Get Back Up – Smarter. Stronger.
So what happens?
You try. You get inconsistent. You feel behind. You start to question yourself.
Insert the snow ball effect. The lapses keep compounding until quitting is the easiest or even just putting the “course” in the background and moving forward. Sound familiar?
But here’s the truth:
You don’t need another course.
You need:
fewer steps
clearer direction (clarity is crucial)
something you can repeat on your hardest day
And here is where we try again with our new smarts and strengths.
Failing To Simplify
I’m talking about something simple enough to follow even when you’re tired.
Simple strategies that make it easy to operate even on hard days. Think simple checklists, Daily Mission Operations, with emphasis on Income Producing Activities. Imagine waking up with clarity, knowing exactly what to do!
Succeeding with Simple!
That’s what I’m building right now.
Not perfect. Not fancy.
Just real systems that work in real life. This isn’t fluff. If you’d like I will send you a simple list of 10 systems the simply implement today.
And if you’re still here… still trying…
That means something. You’re not done. You just haven’t had the right structure yet.
Stay.
We’ll figure it out together. I have ideas galore and if they worked for me: a single mom with 4 kids, (three that needed extra help)… you can do it too.
So stick around. The BEST is yet to come! Questions? Put them in the comments below. I’m here for you.
Impasses: life is full of them. Order grilled or the much yummier deep fried. Go to bed early, stay up late. Delay gratification for eternal gain.
Impasses all throughout the day. But the greatest impasse stared me in the face this week. This great impasse that I am referring to today is operating out of faith or fear.
Impasse: Defense or Offense
Often the differentiating factor in this impasse is operating from defense or offense. In other words are we responding to what life throws at us (defensively)or are we creating our own kingdom (offensively)? The first group often gets their teeth kicked in, whilst the second group are pioneering forward. Which group are you?
Impasse: Fear or Faith?
These two groups are often separated by fear and faith. Fear responds. It is the accronym
F – alse
E – vidence
A -ppearing
R – eal.
Or we can say:
F – focused only on the problem
E – Expects defeat
A – Attitude of self-protection
R – Runs the problem
It spirals downward in defeat. Who wants to live like that? Fear keeps us small. A life like this seems more of a nightmare to me.
This group keeps their hands clinched in tension. Their demeanor is watching for what will go wrong. No offense, but I do not find living like this enjoyable.
The impasse:
I joined a training this week. Much of it wrapped around AI and learning how to implement it daily. But the biggest take away I found, was living from faith.
Instead of preserving on what may go wrong. It has me expecting what will go right! Faith is a whole different way of living.
The choice of faith always spirals upward into action and victory! See this accronym that helps me much more than the affomentioned did.
So I thought about my life. I believe I’m living by faith in most areas. But there is one glaring one that I have been completely clinched in fear.
Fear has gripped me in personal church attendance. I admit it. After being married to two pastors (at different times to be clear). My trust in the American Church has been slim to nil.
However, God still commands His people throughout scripture to attend church. (Psalm 122:1, Hebrews 10:24-25, etc).
To walk out my faith, this Wednesday, I went to small church in person. I still watched online this Sunday morning, but it is baby steps forward.
I share this to be vulnerable and own my fear. My focus wants to be on my perfect God, not his imperfect people.
Impasse:
What area do you need to switch into faith mode? A very good thermometer, to test the temperature of what kingdom we are living out of is to look at our words. Matthew 12: 34 says out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Proverbs 18: 21 says life and death are in the power of the tongue.
It is my belief that death = fear. However, life = faith. Speak life and watch our world be formed according to the words of our mouth.
It’s never too late. Start operating by faith today. Share some faith stories in the comments below. #strongertogether #bettertogether
The End of the American Dream? What could I possibly mean? I believe we were sold a lie.
Work hard through high school. Get into a great college. Choose your life path before our brains were fully developed.
Graduate with honors in our field. Work for the man for 40-50 years at the same company, in the same field. (It sounds so monotonous).
Some of our parents did it. A few were happy with it. Most that I was around seemed miserable. But still, we followed the American Dream set forth or American Delusion, however your perspective is.
Many of us knew nothing else. But from the expressions on people’s faces as we commute to work, it looks like they are living more of a nightmare or at least an “Auto Mode Daze.” Am I wrong?
The American Nightmare?
But the Numbers Tell a Different Story
Today? Only about 62% of high school graduates even go to college. And of those who start… Nearly 40% don’t finish. Almost half of the people who follow the “right path” never reach the finish line. What happens to them? I hope they don’t all work at Panera forever (or any lifeless job for that matter).
And Even If You Graduate…
Here’s the part no one talks about: Only about 30–40% of graduates actually start in a job in their field. So what happens to everyone else? Oh no, not Panera (cringing face). Most pivot.
They struggle, figuring out as they go. (I think of jobs like draining porta potties, digging ditches, etc.)…
American’s are Burned Out?
Meanwhile… People Are Burned Out
Let’s talk about real life. Only about 3 out of 10 people feel engaged at work. Up to 70%+ feel disconnected, stuck, or just going through the motions
Burnout? It’s not rare anymore. It’s normal. No wonder the expressions on people’s faces as we commute.
Consequently: So now we have: Women who did everything “right”… And still feel like something is missing. Boy, can I relate.
Spending my life making other people’s dreams come true feels empty. Watching bosses bend etiquette. Experiencing undo rage from supervisors. Working hours at home just to squeak by the 40 hour grind on site (too heavy of a work load to fit the hours). It feels like a nightmare, not a dream.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve worked jobs where I’m afraid to use the bathroom without being berated. Cancelling doctor’s appointments, missing kids events because of a boss who couldn’t handle the office alone. It was enough to give me some substantial gut issues without a decent pay to make up for the stress.
So… Did the American Dream Fail?
Not exactly. But it changed. The truth is:
The American Dream didn’t disappear… it just stopped being handed out in a straight line.
What Moms Are Starting to Realize
More and more women are quietly asking:
“Is this it?”
“Why am I working this hard and still stressed?”
“What if there’s another way?”
Not because they’re lazy. It’s because they’re awake.
The New Dream Looks Different
It’s not about one job anymore. It’s about:
Multiple streams of income Flexibility Being present with your kids Not relying on one paycheck for your entire life
It’s about building something that actually supports your life. Let’s be honest, unless you are in the upper echelon of a corporation, we just can’t survive on one full time job in America anymore, unless we have heavy debt or dual incomes.
The American Dream Confused
But Here’s Where Most Women Get Stuck
They know they want something different…
But they don’t know where to start. So they:
Try random side hustles (wasting a ton of money in the process)
Burn out even more
Get discouraged
Because no one gave them a simple system or even a path forward.
The American Dream on Sterroids
This Is Why I Created Something Different
There’s No hype. It’s absent of pressure. And it absolutely not “sell your soul for a quick buck.” It’s a real, honest way forward.
Start Here (Free)
If you’re sitting there thinking:
“I know I need something different… I just don’t know what?”
I made this for you:
My “9 Streams of Income You Can Start From Home” Guide
It will help you:
Identify what you’re actually good at
See real options (not fluff)
Start thinking differently about income
Only clarity will come from this. No pressure. There will be no dread.
This fits with your personality. You get to see how others are thriving with each of these income streams.
This Is Why I Created Something Different
This isn’t fluffy, or bubble gum flavored. It sure isn’t “vanilla.” This presents options for you to choose from.
It is a real, honest way to start. Customized for you and by your liking.
Remember, you aren’t failing and you certainly aren’t behind. There are ways of expanding income! You don’t need to reinvent the wheel.
Download this E Book, and reach out with any thoughts or questions. I am here for you! By implementing multiple streams of income you insulate yourself from the destruction of one stream of income.
With this strategy, you can have a safety net behind you, despite the economy. Multiple streams of income insures you thrive, regardless of what may be going on around us.
As a child, I was an Olympic-level bedtime procrastinator.
I had tactics. Strategies. Advanced negotiation skills.
My personal favorite was spotting a tiny spider or dust bunny in the corner of the ceiling and screaming like the house was on fire.
Suddenly I had all the attention I could ever want, although it was negative in nature.
Bedtime Procrastinators at Your House?
Do you have any of these creative, mischievous littles in your castle? Let me jog your memory:
water
needs to use the bathroom for the 8th time in 5 minutes…
another hug
another blanket
a stuffed animal they haven’t seen in ten years – slight exaggeration
the need to pray for children in Asia
a story
deep life questions, ALL of these ONLY happen after laying down in bed… anyone else?
If kids put the same energy into school that they put into avoiding bedtime, we’d have a nation of child geniuses.
Bedtime Procrastinators: The Motive
Possible reasons:
• they don’t want the day to end • they want more connection time • they’re overtired • the routine is unpredictable
I’ve personally thought it is mostly fear of missing out and separation anxiety. But who am I?
Bedtime Procrastination Solutions
When my kids were younger, bedtime sometimes felt like negotiating with tiny caffeinated kittens.
What helped the most wasn’t being stricter. It was having a predictable nighttime rhythm.
And what finally brought the most peace? This may be a wet blanket on your hope, but… the biggest relief was when I decided to lay in the kid’s rooms until they fell asleep. Otherwise, I got more steps in after 8:30pm, then I did all day. (True story). Think massive trips with said items in hand over and over again.
These things did help:
• bath • quiet time • reading • lights out routine
But what really brought peace is when I’d lay on their floors and read my grown up books silently, or catch up on emails. My presence helped them relax much quicker with so much less chaos. (Sorry, not sorry – it’s the truth).
Free (my favorite F word), Procrastinator Deciminator…
After going through years of bedtime chaos, I eventually wrote down the routine that helped our house settle down in the evenings.
I turned it into a little guide for other tired parents.
If you have a bedtime procrastinator in your house and want the routine, you can grab the guide here. (Although, I left out laying in their rooms until the “knock out moment”).
You can grab your free Peaceful Routine Sleep Guide Here. Thanks for stopping by today. Please share your kids procrastination schemes. It would help us all to take a break and giggle. We sure get creative when we want to avoid stuff.
Hormones may wake us up in sweat, cause us to feel permanently fatigued, make our emotions go from zero to 70 faster than a Porsche, give us the shakes, bring skin breakouts, cause hair to grow in unwanted places, and make our body parts shift to the ground in warp speed – not to mention intense food cravings, mystery weight gain… oh the joy of getting older as a woman.
Aunt Flow starts to come sporadically. Sometimes, she doesn’t come for months. Then she storms in with gushing force.
One day we are fine, the next day we are always exhausted by 3:00pm, snapping at our kids, and wondering how are jeans shrunk over night (ha!). Many assume it’s stress or just getting older.
Does any of this sound familiar? So many of us are observers, quietly letting it happen.
This was me. From 35-47, I just let it whip me. The frenzy of strange things happening kept me staring like a frog in a hail storm. But then… I started reading. My eyes were opened.
These resources soon helped me to know, I was not alone. WE are together in changing and there are answers. There is great news, we don’t have to overhaul our lives to see progress.
• Chronic stress • Blood sugar spikes • Poor sleep • Gut health issues • Environmental toxins
Our goal isn’t strict perfection, but gentle support.
7 Gentle Ways to Support Hormones
1. Stabilize Blood Sugar
Protein + fiber every meal.
2. Support the Liver
Your liver processes hormones.
3. Prioritize Sleep
Hormones repair during sleep.
4. Reduce Inflammation
Food choices matter.
5. Calm the Nervous System
Stress drives cortisol.
6. Support Gut Health
Gut bacteria regulate estrogen metabolism.
7. Use Plant-Based Support Wisely
There are so many products that I have added to my daily routine, that have made me feel sharp, energetic, and thriving even after having a full hysterectomy.
Hormones May Need Support if:
You may notice:
• weight gain around the middle • mood swings • fatigue • brain fog • poor sleep • sugar cravings • irregular cycles
These are common… but they are also signals from your body.
• the hormones that change after 35 • foods that support hormone balance • simple daily habits that stabilize energy • plant-based support options many women use
Your body isn’t broken. It’s simply asking for support.
With the right habits and the right tools, many women find their energy, mood, and clarity return, sometimes better than ever! In America women dread these changes. I learned in other societies, women celebrate. So different from what we know.
Give yourself support today and always. What have you found helpful in supporting your hormones. Please comment below. I’d love to hear from you.
I put this list in my Meta Stories. But I thought they might help you, Friend, as well.
These Micro Minutes of Self Care, can’t hurt our hormones for certain. As they reduce our stress, we may find our hormones improve as well.
Overwhelm is often a nervous system state, not a character flaw. This article aims to assist readers in calming the overwhelm with actionable results we all can take to see progress.
Overwhelmed? How does the Nervous System Play a Part?
Overwhelmed often shows up as the nervous system is in Flight or Fight. When our nervous system is calm: it is in Rest and Regulated.
The nervous system includes: energy levels, mood, hormones, focus and decision making. Physically, the anatomy includes the brain and spinal cord. Then it includes nerves and ganglia (think cables connecting it all).
Next, there is the Somatic Nervous System (Voluntary)
This system is under your conscious control. It allows you to move your skeletal muscles—like when you decide to wave your hand or walk to the store.+1
Autonomic Nervous System (Involuntary)
This system runs on “autopilot.” It handles things you don’t think about, like digestion and your heartbeat. It is further divided into two famous responses:
Parasympathetic: The “Rest and Regulated” response. It calms you down and helps your body recover.
Sympathetic: The “Fight or Flight” response. It revs you up during stress (faster heart rate, dilated pupils).
The entire system is built from two types of specialized cells:
Neurons (Nerve Cells): The stars of the show. They transmit the electrical signals. Each has a cell body, dendrites(to receive signals), and an axon (to send signals).+2
Glia (Glial Cells): The “support crew.” They protect, nourish, and insulate the neurons so they can work efficiently
Signs Our Nervous System is Dysregulated
I’ve been in relationships that have been so hard on my nervous system. Symptoms include:
Feeling overwhelmed easily
Constant fatigue
Irritability
Anxiety
Brain fog
Trouble sleeping
Feeling emotionally reactive
Difficulty focusing or completing tasks
These are way too common in my life. (These also sound like perimenopause – yikes).
Why Mom’s Are Especially Vulnerable
Mom’s experience this more for many reasons. Think:
Constant responsibility
Lack of rest
Mental load
Hormonal shifts
Lack of support
Chronic multitasking
Solving So Many Mysteries
For many of us, we have experienced the inability to accomplish much at all and there are reasons for this:
You cannot build clarity, income, or stability from a disregulated state Calm nervous systems make better decisions
Regulation increases capacity, focus, and resilience. So now, let’s explore ways to get regulated and diminish the overwhelm.
Simple Daily Practices That Support Nervous System Regulation
Morning:
Avoid phone immediately
Get sunlight
Hydrate
Throughout the day:
Slow breathing
Gentle movement
Taking breaks
Evening:
Reduce stimulation
Calm environment
Consistent sleep schedule
Focus on consistency, not perfection.
Personal Story:
After my husband left me in a very overwhelming, chaotic marriage. I found my days braced for impact. My nervous system was on high alert constantly.
Reading the Bible was such a life line. Tapping helped. I practiced grounding at least daily. But what helped the very most is my small tweak that I added to my morning routine.
What made an even bigger impact, is putting relaxing oils in the diffuser at night. Waking up feeling more rested is wonderful.
My nervous system is improved as I speak positive affirmations forth daily. The mantra of my life is that my best days are ahead.
Practicing nervous system regulating has such great benefits. It is very worth all of the hard work (Five years of trauma therapy weekly).
Benefits of Regulating the Nervous System
For one, I feel more relaxed. My shoulders aren’t up by my ears anymore. Being able to smile and enjoy is such a blessing.
Clarity is a huge deal to me. Used to, my past, trauma, and shame kept me under a heavy weight. The constant chaos with overwhelm is gone. Thank God!
My emotions are much more stable. It feels not fixating on every challenge. Not lashing out at others in adverse circumstances feel very positive (for those around me to). Stable emotions have helped me trust myself again as well. I’m human, I still mess up at times; stability is normal for me now.
Energy is better. I believe because I am not focused on all the things out of my control anymore. Overwhelm sometimes consists of things we can’t control, doesn’t it?
Without the cloud of a disregulated nervous system, I can make decisions much easier. Leadership is something I’m more prepared for.
Recap:
Yes, getting out from under Nervous Dysregulation takes so much effort, the breakthrough is worth it! Consistency over perfection. Lately, when I am dysregulated, I’ve been grabbing lavender oil and smelling it in the cups of my hands. It helps me within seconds.
Remember, we are not broken. Nervous system disregulation occurs for many reasons. Regulating is a learned skill. Small steps create real change. Make sure to give ourselves grace. We are human. Perfection is too high of a goal.
What is your “go to,” when you are off? I’d love to hear in the comments below. What do you have to say about this subject? Let’s learn together. We are stronger together, better together.
Conclusion:
When the nervous system is more regulated, everything becomes easier. Decision making is more automated. Clarity increases. Confidence grows. This is where real change begins.
For more on this topic, check out: This Post. Once you are more regulated, you can start building multiple streams of income. If you are interested, download my Discover Your $1,000.00 a Month Income Ideas.
How overwhelmed Moms Can Get Organized without doing more… if you are like me; there is most likely a pile of dirty laundry somewhere, a few dirty dishes in the sink, some strange unrelated toys on the floor, and at least one bed in the house that is completely unmade. Can you relate or is it just me? Don’t get me started on the backpacks, shoes, and jackets!
Overwhelmed mom, I see you, I am you too. Wouldn’t it be great if AI could come clean our homes like everything else? Ha!
Most moms including me, aren’t disorganized as much as we are completely overloaded. If you are like me, I get an area “decluttered,” only to find it in disarray a few weeks later. I wonder if there are gremlins who mess my organized areas up at night (ha! I am aware it was my little children often making a mess as they try to find their prized possessions, sigh).
When kids are young, the messes are normally toys, half eaten food, and dirty bibs. As they get older, it’s more sports equipment and uniforms strewn about. And even as kids age, it has been legos, craft supplies, and water bottles that litter my organized way of life. Anyone else? Anyone?
This article is about reminding ourselves (me included) that organization is not about perfection, but on reducing the mental load. When everything has a place, I feel lighter. Knowing where things go, and the confidence that it is being kept there, doesn’t just help me when I need to find things, it gives me so much more peace and joy.
“If your house feels messy and your brain feels full, this isn’t a motivation problem — it’s a systems problem.”
Overwhelmed Moms, Getting Organized:
Step #1: Start With ONE “Landing Zone”
(This is the highest-impact action)
Overwhelmed moms, getting organized starts with landing zones. Whether it’s the junk drawer for all the mysterious finds in the kitchen, hooks for hanging in the garage (on the way inside), or a nice basket with a lid by the front door, these are all known as the wonderful “landing zone.” I also love a good sized ottoman with storage to land the family room clutter.
What I love about landing zones, is that when the cleaning fairy bites, motivating organization, we can put what is in the landing zones away. This limits overwhelm immensely. It also makes cleaning up fast!
My favorite purchase when all of my children (The Fantastic Four) were under ten years old was the stair basket. Even with a crying baby in hand, I could put the items that needed to go upstairs in the “stair basket,” hidden away. Before I went to bed at night, I put what was inside the basket in its proper place (most nights to be honest – ha!).
Why it works:
Reduces visual clutter
Reduces decision fatigue
Prevents piles from spreading
“Don’t organize the whole house. Just give clutter a home.”
Overwhelmed Moms get organized — Organize Your Time Before Your Stuff
Step #2: Organized Moms organize their time before their Stuff
(This is where you sound different from Pinterest moms)…
When chaos is rushing by, clutter follow. So I tried to keep clutter at bay by cleaning up twice a day.
After making breakfast, I would clean the kitchen. Then, after I fed the kids lunch, I’d put them down for nap and tidy up the house. Finally, at night after dinner, before baths, we would clean up again. It was not rare to need to vacuum at this point too. The kids would make crumb piles like nobody’s business. (Face palm).
Simple actions:
Pick 2 daily anchors: these are two time a day that you straighten your home, keeping chaos at bay.
If you have neuro diverse kids like me, keeping their toys separated in clear containers with labels helped so much. This method assisted them in seeing what was inside. It kept their overwhelm at bay, when they wanted to explore.
Examples:
5-minute mid-day tidy
10-minute evening reset
“Your home doesn’t need hours of cleaning. It needs rhythms.”
Overwhelmed Moms Get Organized – Create a “Not Today” List
Step #3 Create a “Not Today,” List
(Mental organization = physical relief)
Moms often carry way too many invisible tasks. Does this sound familiar? “Timmy needs a haircut. The dog needs his flea treatment. Did I miss the deadline for gymnastics next month? Did I pay the classroom fees yet? When does Nora need her medicine next? Do we have enough mayo for BLT’s tonight?”
See all these thoughts fly through our heads like a hurricane constantly. No wonder we fight overwhelm!
I find keeping questions like these off my mind & in my phone or planner so liberating! It helps not carry the weight around.
Next, I have times of the day that I deal with these things. Normally, before the kids wake up, I start making appointment calls. Then, I order groceries.
Some might be giving me a look of judgment. Ordering groceries does cost extra. But, when I take my kids to the grocery store, it takes a couple hours of valuable time and we spend way more money. For me, it is such a HUGE when to oder the groceries; both financially and with time management.
How to do it:
Write down everything stressing you
Move non-urgent items to a “later” list
Why this helps:
Clears mental clutter
Reduces anxiety
Creates focus
“Just because it matters doesn’t mean it has to be done today.”
Overwhelmed Moms Get Organized — Simplify Daily Decisions
Step #4: Simplify Daily Decisions
(This lowers overwhelm fast)
When overwhelm is plaguing us, decision fatigue is all too real. Sometimes, not choosing is best! What I mean by this is give ourselves grace. Every now and then, a jammy day is ok. A night with no bath isn’t going to shatter anyone.
Sometimes, it is ok to have an extra half hour of screen time to keep peace and sanity. Often, choosing the path of least resistance simplifies decision making.
Has anyone else noticed when there are too many choices, tiredness tends to be around the corner. Limiting choices can bring relief, not to mention another layer of organization.
Examples:
repeat meals
simple outfits
set routines for errands, laundry, groceries
Real life story: My youngest melted down every single morning when it was time to get dressed. She would cry. Laying on the floor, she refused to get her clothes on.
We were always late to preschool. I was so embarrassed! She looked disheveled. During preschool, her dad and I unfortunately split up. Our pediatrician referred my youngest for counseling.
Once in counseling, they told me to limit her clothes to four outfits. I cried. Dressing my kids was one of my favorite tasks. So I went through, putting most of clothes away in trash bags (it still hurts thinking about it). At the counselor’s advice, all her clothes we kept could be interchanged.
“What do I realistically have capacity for right now?”
“What system fits this season?”
Key message:
“Organization should serve your life — not shame it.”
CONCLUSION: Systems Over Hustle
Overwhelmed Moms Organizing Choose Systems Over Hustle
Organizing isn’t about being a better mom, it’s about giving ourselves breathing room. I find getting organized cuts down on the overwhelm, giving a sense of preparedness for anything.
Small systems bring great relief. Try living by the principle that everything has a place and is in its place. See how much better we feel!
“You don’t need to do everything. You just need a few systems that work.”
Don’t get more overwhelmed with organizing (ha! – the irony). Choose one small space and one small action each day. First: make landing zones. Second: organize your time. Third: Decide what you are not doing. Fourth: Simplify Daily Decisions. Fifth: Organize for the season.
If you want help building simple systems that fit your real life, I share more of what’s helped me inside my community.
If you would like my simple guide to organizing, click the form below this post.
Burnout to Balance: this should help you get your breath. Systems over stress are about strategies that bring order above chaos. This is my story.
How It Started: Burnout
I was in burnout, trying to build Women Encouragement while working 40 plus hours a week. Burning the candle at both ends can last on adrenaline and grit for a time, but over months and years; burnout is inevitable.
I kept the sprint for about fifteen months, but then hit a wall… hard. Health problems started to plague my body. Being prompt was blowing out the window. Delay seemed to be the heavy cloud over my head.
Multi tasking until the wee hours of the morning to only do it again the next day, ushered in depression. We can’t give, what we don’t have. Running on empty steals. It causes clenched jaws, shoulders at the ears, and numbness.
Burnout to Balance
The Good Lord brought me systems over stress. I wanted to keep the ever running energizer bunny mode on. God thought otherwise.
I quit a very chaotic environmental job. I had another position lined up, but they (four days before my start date) rescinded my acceptance letter. For four glorious months, I have been able to concentrate on systems over stress. I can not exaggerate how much I needed the past 160 days of down time.
Burnout to Balance
At first the hamster wheel was my comfort. I didn’t have a clue as to life off of it. If I wasn’t selling, creating, doing something – what was there to do?
Slowly the onion peeled. Our culture tells us to grind harder. We are exhausted and ashamed of it, so we try so hard to appear rested. The burnout is real.
After about two weeks I finally noticed me quietly picking up books again, baking, and watching shows just for fun. I was suddenly allowed to be me!
Burnout to Balance
Not everyone gets a job lapse. So, let me share some strategies that evade the burnout, bringing balance.
Balanced Mornings
First, the morning routine truly is the Secret Sauce from going from Burn out to Balance. I just finished the 5 AM Club, which was a strange little read. However, the morning schedule shared in the book is sunshine.
Taking the morning to center, calm, meditate, exercise, and read is a huge game changer. Don’t knock it until you try it. This one small system was the quickest savior from the Hamster Wheel.
Balanced Email Systems
Secondly,
Burnout to Balance is helpful in having an email strategy that rescues us from overwhelm (who doesn’t have a full inbox?). It can save hours of searching, struggling, trying to make it make sense. You can find more about this strategy: HERE
Balanced by Time Blocking
Thirdly,
Burnout to Balance happened when I started time blocking. Good bye multitasking. Hello focused attention on one thing. This allows me to stay in the zone without feeling spread thin (where much of burnout comes from).
Time blockers help me with an uptick of production as well. When I was cramming it all in while working 40 plus hours a week, I felt so scattered, it was tough to find results anywhere.
Balanced Planning
Fourth,
From Burnout to Balance, I strongly suggest making a plan. By making a plan before the next day, I wake up with intention. There is no half a$$ing a day. I know what needs to be accomplished for things to move forward.
This keeps me from coasting. Having a few things written down or typed in my phone, keeps me from channel surfing or doom scrolling.
This resource might help you as well. I wrote it, and it contains two systems for content creation. Check it out HERE.
Balanced with Social Media Strategy
Lastly,
Burnout to Balance: social media edition… have a plan in place. I now keep a huge monthly calendar of content creation on my bedroom wall. This keeps me from throwing social media content out there and praying it works (giving me a concrete plan). Utilizing this system combats burnout because I have a reference point to implement instead of constant fretting over what might work, what should I post today, etc.
I sit down with the AI masters (Gemini, Chat gpt) and figure it out with them. These sit down sessions are almost always under an hour. This alone gives me such great guardrails for what I’m doing on the webbernets. I strongly suggest this yourself.
How do you know if you are burned out? Great question. I made a list of the symptoms of burnout. You can download it: (complete the form at the bottom of this post).
Balance:
To recover from Burnout, I found I needed more sleep. I’m talking about hibernation level rest. My body craved it hard. Give yourself permission to rest to recover from burnout.
Slowly add some systems to your day. This keeps chaos at bay. I find hustle culture breeds chaos like rabbits breed bunnies (it happens quickly). When we have systems in order, they act as the net below the acrobats at the circus to keep us safe.
Sometimes, people pull on me to break out of systems. I respond, “Sorry, I’m booked at that time.” Systems are much like boundaries: they keep the good in and the evil at bay.
My Burnout/Balance Story
It took me about a full thirty days to feel truly me again. If you don’t have thirty days: I encourage you to take breaks. Give yourself micro vacations to walk outside. Drink your favorite beverage. Eat some favorites. Savor the good in life. Self care as much as possible. In time we will be off the hamster wheel. It is just a matter of time.
If you’d like more along these lines, meet me for my Zoom, Mondays at 7:00pm called the Mom Reset. It’s quick, under 45 minutes and will bring a breath of fresh air to us all. Comment below for the link.
What have done to get out of burnout? I’d love to hear what worked for you. Let’s cheer each other on, celebrating each other! Be blessed
Nervous system dysregulation → burnout + no results
“Your body cannot heal or release weight when it thinks you are not safe.”
Overwhelmed Moms Can lose weight with the right systems:
Systems > Willpower
Here are some systems that helped this overwhelmed mom greatly:
Sleep system
Only with proper rest can our bodies relax enough for overwhelmed moms to be able to lose weight. I suggest: set a bed time alarm. No technology for at least two hours before sleep. Rest with a fan on. Make sure the environment is cool enough. The room needs to be dark. Stretch and relax before going into sleep mode. Destress. Make a list for tomorrow and leave any cares on the paper/list where you left it.
Regulation system
We have to be somewhat regulated for our overwhelmed mom bodies to release weight. Self care is so important here. Breath work, proper hygiene, and mind set are important. With implementing these self care techniques the body can become relaxed enough to function optimally. Getting at least twenty minutes of high intensity movement is a regulation booster too. Try it before you knock it.
Nutrition rhythm
Overwhelmed moms often snack for energy. We also eat to destress. Comfort food (high starches), sugars, caffiene, and heavily processed foods are easy grabs for overwhelmed moms. When this is the case, I suggest drinking water before eating, to insure we are actually hungry. Next keep only whole, nutricious foods around as options. Aim for several small meals instead of cramming a ton of food in. Avoid eating after dinner. Making these rhythms provide an extra layer of security. Eating like this helps me feel more in control.
Gentle metabolic support
Think of your body like a little car. To make a car go, you need to give it good fuel and keep the engine healthy. Metabolic support is just a fancy way of saying we are taking care of your “inner engine.” When a mom is very tired or stressed, her engine starts to move slowly, and it’s hard to get where she wants to go. By eating the right foods and getting good rest, we help her engine run fast and smooth again. This gives her the “vroom-vroom” energy she needs to play with her kids and feel strong!
Key line:
“Healing happens through systems, not discipline.”
Overwhelmed Mom’s Can Heal and Lose Weight, let me share more:
I have a bit of a “turbo-charged,” system to share with you. This may help assist anyone interested in losing weight. Let me present this fairly new product to you:
Balance & Burn is designed to support the body’s natural balance. Many women today deal with stress, busy schedules, and irregular eating, which can confuse how the body uses fuel. This helps support healthy insulin signaling, which is how the body moves sugar from the blood into the cells for energy. When this system is supported, the body may feel more steady, less “spiky,” and better able to handle daily ups and downs.
When insulin signaling is supported, the body can feel more comfortable releasing stored energy instead of holding on to it. Many women use Balance & Burn as part of a daily routine that includes regular meals, movement, rest, and hydration. It is not a quick fix or a weight loss drug, but a supportive tool that helps the body do what it was designed to do—find balance, use energy well, and feel supported over time.
People are finding their blood sugar levels much more in range using this. It also helps with energy. Click the pictures below to learn more.
Why Overwhelmed Moms Can’t Lose Weight
I hope this post gives you hope. We do not have to take shots to lose weight. If you have any questions, please ask them in the comments. Thanks. May our best be yet to be!
Glp1 is a controversial phrase these days. I hear “Glp1” almost daily. It’s almost a buzzword that fills American life.
If you’ve followed me for anytime at all, you know I like to live a low chemical, plant based lifestyle. So I had to search, does Glp1 fit me or not.
GLP1 Yes:
I found myself morbidly obese. Never in my life had weight, eating, and exercise ruled my life. However after a full hysterectomy, here I am. Plumpy, feeling like a can of biscuits trying to get all the excess into my pants each day.
Upon my yearly physical the doctor wanted to put me on just about every medication offered at my age: Statin, metformin, high blood pressure meds, and then she thought. The idea rang out, let’s try you on Zepbound and see if all this other ruckus is eliminated. Voila! So, I tried the injections.
The doctor reiterated that at my age a heart attack was almost inevitable at my weight. This was certainly news I did not want to hear. So I was glad to get Zepbound.
GLP1 Yes:
At first the prescription cost $100 with my insurance which I could barely afford. But then, one day, while searching Reddit, I found this savings card. It brought the cost down to a wonderful $25.00.
I administered the injections like a champ. Suddenly, I was not hungry. No longer did I feel faint when I didn’t eat frequently. In the first month, I lost six whole pounds.
Bending over was easy again. I could see my private parts when I looked down. All was well with the world. Until the second injection.
GLP1 No:
The second injection went in just fine, but I woke up the next morning feeling like a Mac Truck had hit me in the night (visions of drinking too much filled my head), but oddly I hadn’t drank. I just felt very similar: body aches, dehydrated, nausea, and headache.
Next, extreme joint pain stabbed my body. This was only at the 2.5 ml dosing. Hold me, I was scared of the future on Zepbound.
GLP1 No:
My doctor was thrilled with my progress. She called me a super responder, though I saw myself as a slow responder. In my Reddit groups, much younger people were dropping weight much faster than me.
Since my doctor was happy with the weight loss, each month she increased my dose until at 7.5, I vehimenantly refused to move to the 10ml dosing. At 7.5 I thought I might die from Zepbound.
Dying from Zepbound entered my head daily. I gagged as if I had morning sickness during pregnancy every morning. Calling off work often the day after my injection became all too customary.
Thankfully, I remembered Young Living DiGize, this helped me not miss as much work. I would rub it on my belly after every “meal.” Meals were more precisely just a few bites of food.
It was my belief that the Ningxia Red I drank each day helped me keep going too. I tried taking other supplements and because of my injections, they did not settle well. Thankfully, I never threw up.
To help off set my nutrition because I was barely eating even a fifth of what I used to before injections, I started chewing kid’s multi vitamins. They were the only ones that I didn’t belch throughout the day.
GLP1 No:
Crazy symptoms became worse with each dosage increase. I could not have a bowel movement to save my life. Thankfully, a reddit sub suggested Mag 07 for constipation. This helped so much, often too much (keeping it real). I had to play with the dosage daily.
A different crazy symptom was wonderful, I didn’t have eye floaters anymore while on the injections. I also experienced great joint health, there was no pain anymore! It is my hunch that the shots do a lot more than just help us lose weight.
Lastly, the other strange “side effect,” was the whole year I was on Zepbound, I never craved alcohol at all. At 14, I had a hefty habit. To this day, if things get stressful, I can almost taste strong booze in my mouth. It has been a daily fight to not indulge. On Zepbound, there was no pull towards alcohol whatsoever, even though stress abounded.
GLP1 No:
Strange side effects I hadn’t heard of terrorized my body. I had Charlie horses that woke me every night, pretty much all night long. But I found an antidote. The fix is pricey, but effective.
A daily glass of electrolytes tended to ease the cramps. I was so thankful for the electrolytes. This daily glass also gave me a good amount of energy.
Towards the end of my Zepbound journey, I reluctantly went to 10ML. Then, I felt I was dying from not eating enough, not all the side effects anymore. I began eating candy because it sounded good, but I was still losing weight. (Not healthy at all. Don’t look at me in that tone of voice). 🤣
GLP1 No:
This friends is the end of my GLP1 story. In all I lost 48 pounds in almost a year. Yay me! My clothes fit great. The tummy area was flat again.
But then sadness. There was a job change that brought different insurance. The bitter truth was clear: Zepbound nor Wegovy were covered.
As a single mom paying out of pocket even with declining prices was a major no go. What is someone to do in this situation? I sadly decided I would blow up like the Pillsbury Dough Boy again. Oh agony and depression. Without this job change, I actually thought I would micro dose the injections for the rest of my life to stay thin (I wonder long term what that idea does to the body?) – yikes.
GLP1 Hope:
I’ve been with Young Living for 13 years. Their Slique line aimed at weight management never really positively impacted me. Don’t get me wrong, I love the tea. The scale just didn’t move down while using it.
Hark, Young Living is coming out with a new product called Balance and Burn! I thought it would cost a few hundred dollars. My joy level increased as I realized, I was wrong! The cost is $135. If you’re new to Young Living, anyone can use “ShareYL” in the promo code and receive 10% off.
Thus, today, I am very excitedly awaiting my order of Balance and Burn. Friends were qualified to use it early. Their results are nothing but amazing. Please see the testimonies I have so far below.
This supplement isn’t exactly a GLP1. It is a metabolic support. It is my belief this may help me even more than the Zepbound. While on Zepbound, sadly, my general doctor still urged me to take both a Statin and Metformin as my numbers were not quite what she wanted.
My prayer in closing, is that I can get off all this medication while on Balance and Burn. I’ve heard Balance and Burn is so successful because it is a three tier system: it helps balance blood sugar, it has a post biotic, and it has a natural plant fat burner.
This is all right up my alley. I believe my best days are ahead, not just in health, but in wealth. Join my team, help me spread this natural solution to others. You can find more about my business plan in this post.
Thanks for reading today. Let me know if you have tried a GLP1 and what your experience is. Also, let me know if you want to start a 60 day challenge with Balance and Burn that begins February 2, 2026.
Cheers!
PS In a few months, I’ll be sure to post my progress. I gotta a feeling it will be great! If you want more info about Balance and Burn, please ask questions in the comments or send me an email. TIA.
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